Defining marriage???

When you ask younger people (I meant teenagers) :-) about their definition of marriage. They will probably come up to these definitions...

"2 people inlove joining in a matrimony"
or girls would say- "White wedding??" -"fabulous dress, fantastic food.
and some naive people, would say "meeting your soulmate and spending the rest of your life with them"

I have been married for nearly 13 yrs now- and when someone asked me when I was a teenager-about my definition of "marriage" I remember saying- Oh that would be me in a few years time, when I meet my MR RIGHT! "yeah right!"

Is there such thing as Mr Right? naaahhhh-I dont think so. BUT honestly speaking, when I met my husband to be then, I thought he was my Mr Right! but yes- I am definitely right...He was RIGHT for marrying me, though I was the one who suffered the consequences afterwards. :-)

Now if you ask me what is marriage? I would say - Marriage is the most difficult carreer in the world. It's not all about finding the right person, it's about understanding and coping with this person for the rest of your life, it's all about partnership, learning how to compromise, it's not just a one way system. Sometimes marriage is full of lies and heartaches. I came from a family that is full of betrayals and infidelity. I kept on asking myself when I was young why men lies...why men promised to love one person for the rest of their life but ended up sleeping with somebody else.

Recently- I asked a male friend why they lie????and he answered, "because it was in the bible".

yeah right? are you kidding me?
he said- NO! I am telling the truth there is a reason behind all that...let me explain and this is what he said..
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One day, while a woodcutter was cutting a branch of a tree above a river, his axe fell into the river. When he cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "Why are you crying?" The woodcutter replied that his axe has fallen into water, and he needed the axe to make his living. The Lord went down in the water and reappeared with a golden axe. "Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.

The woodcutter replied, "No."

The Lord again went down and came up with a silver axe. "Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.

Again, the woodcutter replied, "No."

The Lord went down again and came up with an iron axe. "Is this your axe?" the Lord asked.

"Yes", he replied. The Lord was pleased with the man's honesty and gave him all three axes to keep, and the woodcutter went home happy.

Some time later the woodcutter was walking with his wife along the riverbank, and his wife fell into the river. When he cried out, the Lord again appeared and asked him, "Why are you crying?"

"Oh Lord, my wife has fallen into the water!" The Lord went down into the water and came up with Angelina Jolie.

"Is this your wife?" the Lord asked.

"Yes," cried the woodcutter.

The Lord was furious. "You lied! That is an untruth!"

The woodcutter fell to his knees and cried, "Oh, forgive me, Lord. It is misunderstanding. You see, if I had said 'no' to Angelina Jolie, You would have come up with Catherine Zeta-Jones. Then if I also said 'no' to her, you would have come up with my wife. Had I then said 'yes,' you would have given me all three. Lord, I am a poor man, and am not able to take care of all three wives, and I love my wife such that I don't want her to share me with anyone, so THAT'S why I said yes to Angelina Jolie."

The moral of this story is: Whenever a man lies, it is for a good and honourable reason, and for the benefit of others..

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hmmnnnn, he made a good point... :-)

Filipino mentality..

One of my nieces is getting married--yeeehhaaaa! but it was just a private wedding and they only want family members and closest friends..

Now she's having some dilemma! When she invited people, some says- can I take my children? bestfriend, parents etc...

This is the thing in the Philippines...we don't know the concept of RSVP- they are not aware of the protocol. When I celebrate my son's 1st bday party in the Philippines, I don't even know half of the people there, there are more adults than the children. Grandparents, neighbours, relatives etc.

Others even go on a huff when they don't get invited, like as if it's the end of the world...(asuss- tampururut kapa jan) I know that I have been living abroad for so many years now, but even then, when I am the only one invited, I never drag the whole clan if I was invited to a party.

On my wedding day, it was written clearly -RSVP- out of 300 people invited, no one had the decency to respond. Did they all turn up ? NO! but the funny thing is, there are babies and children (not my family member) on my wedding...and when i specified and stipulated "FORMAL attire" here in the UK, people always make an effort to shop for clothes when they go to weddings, but in the Philippines, expect some of them to turn up wearing rubber shoes, jeans and shorts...abysmal!!!

Well- I am not saying, forget about the tradition and lets all be westernise, but my point is, it's expensive to have parties nowadays, and if the host is paying an extortionate amount of money for catering, I thought it would be polite to atleast respond and dont invite uninvited guest..if it says YOU are invited plus a guest...just take one guest...cos it didnt say GUESTS with an S...

It's not rocket science really, I hope people realise that...